how to overcome codependency in relationships?

A codependent relationship has two sides to offer. If you are in a codependent relationship, you are either on the receiving end of an unending emotional turmoil where you find it hard to respond with the same amount of emotional energy as the person is so dependent on you. He/ she will want to spend every waking hour possible with you even if it’s about being there, just existing. Another side involves where you are the one just giving and giving and do not receive any emotional attachment or response, in return no matter how hard you try. It’s almost like being in a one-sided relationship sometimes.

If most of the times, you feel like your life revolves around your partner and your every move is based according to their comfort, then you might be too dependent on your partner, or at least more dependent than he is towards you. If you always go out for a movie on the day that your partner can without paying a little heed to your comfort and you still want to go out with them, then you might be too dependent on them in terms of emotional value.

If you are too insecure and feel like you must avoid mistakes from your side at all costs just because the fear of losing them is way too high, then you might be way too dependent on them than they are on you. You or your partner might get too paranoid if you stop talking to them for a little while after a fight and will make endless attempts to get back to you on the matter and apologize, even if it’s not their mistake.

You consider them as some sort of god and praise everything that they say. Even if you sometimes disagree on some point and get in an argument, chances are that you are the one by the end of the fight to surrender to your partner’s decision. Fixing such an issue can be very difficult as the insecurity rooted in the dependent partner’s mind is way too deep and eradicating that can be tricky. They also tend to convince themselves that the other person loves or likes them to the same extent as they tend to do and usually turns a blind eye or find it hard to accept within themselves that your better half may just not be that much into you.

Usually when a partner realizes that his or her better half will succumb to his or her every need, they tend to manipulate every conversation according to them. The dependent partner usually tends to get dominated and manipulated way too easily in these cases.

If most of the time, you find yourself anxious as to what’ll happen after a fight with your partner and sleep every night with the fear of losing them the next day, then maybe it’s your cue to either break things off or talk to them about it.

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