Benefits Of Taking A Break From Dating

Posted by Unknown October 26, 2017

Benefits Of Taking A Break From Dating

Taking a break in a relationship has a bad reputation. When you hear, “Honey, I think we need to take a break,” it probably translates in your mind as, “I can’t stand to be around you anymore. Let me out of here!”

Serial dating is a bleak enterprise fraught with disappointment, inexplicable rejections, and dead end encounters. I imagine this is what actors feel like on an endless audition loop, getting excited about a prospect, delivering a great performance, and waiting anxiously for the phone that never rings.

This type of emotional roller coaster could make even the hardiest among us reach for the barf bag. When dating fatigue sets in, it’s best to extinguish Tinder, give Grinder the heave ho, and clip OKCupid’s wings.

After my fateful encounter with a flakey Australian who left me reeling for five days, barely able to function, I knew I needed to take a step back and examine why and how this one person I barely knew was able to decimate my self-confidence and productivity. Left guessing as to what had transpired between his offer of making me French toast and his total disappearance (and silence even in the face of an invitation to accompany me to a Vanity Fair party), I had to check in with myself about what I bring to a relationship and why anyone would (or wouldn’t) want to date me.

I decided it was time to take myself off the market until I could heal my wounded pride and figure out why I have been unable to attract the right person. We are destined to make the same mistakes over and over again if we don’t step back and take stock of our current situation. Doing so makes us more confident, aware of our strengths and weaknesses.

One a particularly lonely night this week, when not even Bill Maher could console me, I sat on the couch and made a list of the positive and negative qualities that someone might see me in — I suggest you do to the same.