How to Stop being Judgmental?

Judging others is very easy as all you need to do is observe their activities and comment on them. This has a lot to do with a person’s mindset where he or she feels that it is imperative to pass judgment on others and the voice inside their head reminds them of all the things people have said to them or about them.

 

It is very difficult to accept that we judge everything about everyone from their clothes, to the way they look, to the way they talk and their actions. It is a thing which we do because we deceive ourselves into believing that we are better than others wherein it’s just what we do in our profession is what is different with everything else being the same. We are going to talk about everything about judgments, why they happen, what are the consequences of judgment and how can we stop yourself from Judging Others?

Why Do We Judge Others?

We are afraid to believe it or not we are intimidated by those around us when we are not talking to them, or they are not talking to us. This period of silence makes us admit our real feelings. Everybody is not the same, and we will always come across people who are better than us at something and find that we are better at something than other people do. This can either inflate or deflate our sense of self and make us criticize the other person or bitch about them.

 

How To Stop Judging Others?

#1. Depersonalize

What is the primal response of anyone who gets hurt? It is that they, in turn, hurt others or keep looking for ways till they finally find one to hurt others. This is very wrong because we take the thing personally which other people say because they are unable to mask the pain. Every adult has something or the other that is bothering them and this only results in the frustration piling up in head eager for release, and it’s okay if you see someone venting. Just dismiss it as their bad day and don’t look to seek revenge.And stop yourself from Judging Others.

 

#2. Filter Thoughts

A lot of times, we tend to say the first thing that comes to our mind which is more irresponsible than wrong of us because we should consider all the things are just a figment of imagination in our head. A good mind is just a patient one.You need to practice thought control and whenever you think about another person just know to limit your thinking to facts and not stretching with your own imagination. Concluding every person, you come across with a smile will help you not judge others.

 

#3. Empathize

Empathy is all about putting yourself in anyone else’s shoes. Don’t you burn yourself in agony when someone says something about you which is really mean and for sure exaggerated? How will you feel when someone who doesn’t have all the information on you passes a negative opinion on you with such confidence that you doubt yourself? It can come from anyone including your loved one when the distance between both of you grows.

#4. Facts and Projections

One must admit to oneself the truth at all times which is they need to acknowledge what exactly they have on the other person and how much of it is projected. Judging is a mostly negative exaggeration which should not happen at all as it is responsible for giving birth to stereotypes which isolate a group of people from others giving birth to enmity and differences when all there should be is love. Once you get determined about not using negative exaggeration as a tool to get rid of your own mental demons, you will for sure stop judging others.

 

#5. Growth Is Not Easy

The growth of any kind is not easy. It asks a lot from a person especially courage and patience as whoever thinks of scaling new heights overnight often comes face to face with reality. The environment one grows up in has its roses and its scars, no two people share the same roses and the same scars.

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