What to do When you Hate your In-Laws?

When you get married, it is not easy to be on good terms with everyone apart from your spouse. You are well aware of your spouse’s movements and habits, but the same we cannot say of your in-laws. They can make you uneasy at times and even get on your nerves with some of their antics.

 

Every family has a certain silliness about them which when viewed by an outsider doesn’t inspire the same love as the people who are actively involved in this personal story. It can happen to you as well as you grew up in a different setting to that of your spouse. In-laws can be demanding and intrusive not realizing where to draw the line but once you have married your spouse, her parents are your parents and your parents are hers, so you have to learn to be more sociable with them.

Here’s How To Handle Relationship With Your In-Laws

# 1. Accept Them Into Your Extended Family

It is important that you understand that over time people are cast into certain molds which shape their personality and character. If you keep fighting with yourself that they are not behaving in a certain way and this anger will solve nothing but only consume you and start eating you from the inside.

 

# 2. Set The Limit

Everybody has the right to have views and sometimes when people who have polarizing views sit at the dinner table feelings of enmity may fly over food. It is a very naive assumption to make that the person who is related to you will have similar views as you. What one needs to do here is set the tolerance meter to a point where you let them express some of their own and hear them without questioning your beliefs or theirs.

# 3. Don’t Go Overboard

A lot of spouses tries to do a complete turn on their emotions when they learn that it is not okay to harbor hatred for their in-laws and it is necessary to love them for making nice relationship with your in-laws . Everything you do or say for them will not be received enthusiastically, and things they do for you shouldn’t be either. You have successfully inspired love in their child, it is not your responsibility to forge a similar relationship with their parents as well.

 

# 4. House Rules

When you get married, you have to cope up with a lot of changes in both your immediate surroundings and external. Your house rules must remain uncompromised, and their house rules should remain uncompromised as well.

 

# 5. Think About The Long Run

Consider your hatred and how childish it is because once you have married your spouse there can be no avoiding their parents. It’s important you change your attitude of making faces and cribbing around them.You should not avoiding your in laws. In the future, you will also become parents some day and defining the relationship is very important in the start.

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